How I Handle Awkward Encounters

I know I haven't blogged for over a week, and I really don't know what to tell ya.  I'm just going to kind of ignore it. You know, like when you don't talk to a high school friend in a long time and then awkwardly run into them in the mall.  You can either casually act like you haven't missed a beat and have been too busy to text or facebook or whatever, or, you can do what I do and ignore the situation, and turn and walk in the opposite direction.  Of course, I wouldn't turn my back on you!  I'm much better with there's a vast Internet barrier between us.  But let's just pretend it hasn't been over a week since we last connected via blogging. K?  Great.

Lately I've been really drawn to plain, simple pieces and then dressing them up with fun accessories, such as these hot pink earrings.  Casual, comfortable, stylishly effortless if I may say so myself.

I have been working on planning my son's first birthday party, which, let's face it, is lots of fun.  It brings out the inner pre-k teacher in me.  I enjoy it, and I know he won't remember it, but he will be able to look back at photos and know he had an awesome first birthday.   Unfortunately we don't really have any friends with kids, besides a couple of family members, so it's going to be full of lots of adults ooing and aahing.    Which reminds me, my husband and I are in search of friends with kids.  Please, be our friend. Someone should really start a match.com-like website for this.  

Finally, someone has been missing her time in the spotlight.  So I let her have a moment.

P.S.  Tiny top knots are my new favorite.


Best Of: Wedding Gowns

Since this is the busy season for weddings, and I have been seeing so many things popping up, I thought I would share a few of my favorite wedding gowns.  First, let me say my wedding dress experience was probably way more complicated than it needed to be.  I wanted a blush, fitted gown.  But when I went into the first bridal store I was completely overwhelmed and ended up picking this big ball gown.  I definitely felt like a bride in it and it had pockets, which kind of sold me. I immediately changed my mind, however, that night, but they wouldn't let me return or exchange the order.  Fail.  So after stressing about it a couple of months I decided when the gown came in I would re-sell it and I would rather spend a little more and get a dress I really wanted.  I was crunched for time but ended up getting a white fitted tulle gown.  It was definitely much better than my first dress, much more me, but because of my indecisive nature and love of all things beautiful I can't help but eye other dresses and think, oh that one, that could have been the one!  

My most, absolute current favorite has to be this beauty from BHLDN.  Swoon.  It took my breath away.  The way it fades to pink is just beyond gorgeous.  Yup, this could have been the one too.  It's the perfect mix of traditional white and the modern blush color.  If only my husband and I could have a wedding every year.  Would it be inappropriate to wear this out to dinner?

Emma Gown

This other one from BHLDN is also beautiful.  The back detailing is so unique.  Imagine what a statement it would make going down the aisle.

I have a slight obsession with Watters gowns.  The delicate sleeves and embroidery on this lace and tulle gown are so sweet.

Here is another style I fawned over.  I think this is a replica of a more expensive gown whose designer escapes me, but you can wear the full skirt down the aisle and then take it off to reveal a fun cocktail type dress for the reception.  If any of you are as indecisive as me between the full gown look or something fitted, this could be the one.

I know not everyone is for them but I like the look of asymmetrical hems.  I think this could be really fun for an early afternoon wedding, maybe outside or set under open beams of a farmhouse or something.  

Finally, I love headpieces, even if it's not your wedding day. I almost bought this one but talked myself out of it, afraid it would be too distracting. I still love it though.

My best advice if you are in the market for a wedding dress is to spend a little more if it's what you really want.  You can cut something else out of the budget if needed.  A dress you love doesn't have to be expensive though, there are lots of options with Etsy or preownedweddingdresses.com (where I sold my first dress). Really there's dresses for every budget today.  Your dress will live on forever in your photos and your memories, and you want to look back  20+ years from now and still love it and feel like it represented who you were at that time.  


An Update On My New Year Resolutions (plus an outfit for funsies)

In January, well, technically the last day of December, I shared my New Year Resolutions.  I am not normally one for resolutions but they were all things I genuinely wanted, and they were all attainable, which are both things that should be key components of any resolution or goal.  So since we're now 1/4 of the way into 2014, I thought I would give an update.

My first goal was to get off of auto on my camera and learn to use manual mode.  I am still working on this.  I did watch a youtube tutorial on my camera to understand it's features a little more, but truthfully I've forgotten some of it because I didn't practice enough after I watched it.  I promise I will get this one done, I just need to take the time. 

Get back to running, working out and getting back into a shape I am comfortable.  I joined a gym in December, and not because I need a gym to keep me accountable but because it was cold outside.  I've been going to the gym typically 3 days a week, plus I've been running outside and doing Tone It Up youtube videos after my work outs or on days I don't get to the gym.  I don't like to weigh myself because I don't think scales are an accurate reflection of health, so all I can go off of is what I see in the mirror, how I feel, how my clothes fit and my ability to do more in a physical work out than I could three months ago.   I'm planning on posting a comparison shot with some of my outfit photos soon for reflection, but I think it's going well. 

My final resolution was more meal planning and to cook more. I would say we are eating at home 75% more than we were.  It's actually been tricky to find meals that don't take a ton of ingredients or cook time, but that also don't come from a box (i.e.hamburger helper).  Not that I don't like hamburger helper, but it's not really what I want.  I actually find cooking quite relaxing, but I can't spend even 45 minutes cooking a meal with a baby around.  A few things that have been on the menu include pasta, turkey burgers, fish & veggies, chicken & veggies and enchiladas are coming up this week.  I'm also pretty impressed with myself for having leftovers and getting creative with them.  For example, one night we had a pita and hummus pizza and I used the leftover arugula and tomatoes, processed them in the food processer and made myself a pita sandwich the next day.  I also made my new go-to tomato sauce for pasta (from this book)  and had a ton of leftover sauce.  So I mixed it with some ground beef and made italian sloppy joes.  The italian part just popped into my head, but it's ok, I googled it and it's a real thing.

So there you have it. If New Year Resolutions carried mid-term grades, I would give myself an A.  I still have 9 months to get going on my camera, so I think so far so good.

Linking up today with Alissa!


Denim Squared

I don't know when denim on denim came back in style. Maybe it never went out and I stayed too on trend to think it was relevant.  But whatevs, I am happily embracing my childhood styles as an adult.  So far birkenstocks, floral prints, grungy plaid and round sunglasses are all making their way back into my wardrobe.  Just toss in a mini backpack and I'll be set. 

Momma Monday: Mom Rant

So normally I like this to be a place of smiley faces, rainbows and gumdrops.  Seriously.  I don't like reading too much negativity on blogs, only because I see too much of it on a daily basis....in the news, in the workplace.  Let's all be happy people!

But today I have to vent a little.   Hopefully it will not be in vain though, I want to create an understanding.

This past week my husband and I ventured out of the house to a monthly local event that is full of live music, food trucks, and street vendors.  The event is marketed as family friendly and dog friendly, and it was our first time going. I was really excited about it, because we had plans, something to look forward to in an otherwise monotonous week of dirty diapers, work, no sleep and the same old routine.  

The place was packed, like you could barely move to get from one point to another.  We had our son in the stroller, and there were lots of other families with strollers, so my husband set up shop against a wall with the baby while I ventured out to stand in line for 20 minutes for food.  While standing in line I was catching bits and pieces of the couple talking behind me, and they caught my attention as they started talking about the people who had brought strollers.  They went on to say how it was rude, because people had to move out of their way, and that those families should just get a babysitter for the night.

I chuckled to myself.  If only it was that simple, if only they understood.  If only they understood that when you have a new baby, you rarely get out of the house.  You rarely feel normal and interact with other people, and any trip, even a trip to the grocery store, is refreshing.  The fact that we had an opportunity to go to something that is family friendly and also fun is rare, because you can't exactly take your baby out dancing.  Granted I didn't know how crowded it was going to be, and it was hard to push a stroller through the crowd let alone get myself through the crowd, but our stroller isn't any wider than two people walking side by side.  If only they understood babysitters can be hard to come by, and you may have grandparents nearby but they may not be available, or maybe you actually want to be brave and try something together, as a family.  And if you don't have grandparents nearby babysitters cost money.  It's rare you can find a family friendly event that is fun and outside where your baby can yell and cry all they want and no-one will care because you can barely hear the person next to you talking anyway. (note, my baby was a perfect angel, he didn't cry once #notsohumblebrag)    We just want to have some fun.  We don't want to get in anyone's way, or be pushy, or overtake your hangout.  We may be parents now, but we want to enjoy our Friday night just like you.

One day they'll probably understand.  There may come a day when he may get down on one knee and propose to her, and they'll get married, and have a baby, and one day they will want to get out of the house too, to have fun like they used to.  One day they may feel brave, and they'll put their stroller in their car and venture out.  Probably they'll be standing in line somewhere, and they'll hear the young couple behind them, talking about all the babies, and how people should just get a babysitter.  And maybe they'll chuckle to themselves too.


My Birthday Suit

No!  Not that kind of birthday suit!  Get your minds out of the gutter!

Like a high-school freshman gearing up for the first day of school, 99% of this outfit is shiny and new.  The best thing about it?  This bee-yoo-ti-ful pink Kate Spade bag my bestie got me for my 30th birthday.  She spoils me so.  The worst thing?  The fact that I cut off my new Birkenstocks in the photo.  They were a gift to myself from money I was gifted for my birthday.  A double gift of sorts, if you will.  

Cash...the gift that keeps on giving...until I run out.


Twirlk It

First, if you are reading this post simply because you are either a)confused by or b)totally get the humor of my post title,  thank-you...either way.  

This photo is almost a month old-where has March gone?  #clicherhetoricalquestions  I wore this outfit to a friend's baby shower, and while most of the pictures I didn't like, this one snapped just as I was twirling, ya know, for fun, and saw that my husband and son totally caught me.  It was a fun and humbling moment, and as I awkwardly grabbed my tripod to go back inside, my husband told me I looked pretty.   He totally gets that I like to twirl, and that if choosing a gift for me leopard is always the way to go, and that I'm a flower child at heart, and that I laugh at my own jokes...(ahem....twirlk it).    He totally gets me, and I get him, which is why we're MFEO.  


Taking A Breather

This is how I feel right now.

I had taken off of work this week for my 30th birthday.  But my son caught RSV from child care, and so he's hanging out with me this week instead.    I have been scrambling to keep up with blog posts for the past month or so, and this week I had plans for a 30th birthday series but it's just not happening.  Sorry people.  I've seen my follower count drop over the last month, so I imagine those are the people who would have only been friends with me in high school if I had set at the 'cool' table.  Well, I never set at that table, so thanks to everyone else who is still sticking around.  Posts have been very few and far between, and while my son is napping I'm going to take a minute to let you know they may be few and far between a bit longer. I have dishes to do, a dirty house, need groceries, papers to grade for my side job teaching, a sick baby to tend to and all I really want to do is sit down and watch a movie under a blanket....with a coke.  So I'll see you when things settle down, hopefully sooner rather than later.  

Thankfully these are small issues, this I know.


30: My Favorite Moments

As I mentioned yesterday, the 20s are weird, because so much happens.  It's such a time of transition and paves the way for adulthood.  Being a "grown up".

My 20s definitely had it's down moments.  But there's no point in focusing on those, because although there were problems and obstacles, as my husband says, a problem isn't a problem once you learn from it, it's a lesson.  So with those lessons tucked away into my memory for safe keeping and passing on, here are my top 10 favorite moments from my 20s.

10.  Graduating with my Bachelors and Masters.  Although I didn't study my passions, and would probably completely change majors if I was to do it all over again,  at least I have these under my belt.

9.  Starting my blog.  It's been nice to find a hobby and a place to be able to write.  If anything it will serve as a reflection for myself and my son to look back on.  

8.  Honeymooning in Belize.  Little did we know this was going to be our last vacation just the two of us, and we had such fun time scuba diving, visiting Mayan ruins and just spending time together without having to worry about anything else!

7. Being able to attend OU football games with my husband, and all the happy memories it's created and will create.  As I mentioned in a post awhile back, it's more than just a football game, it's a seasonal experience that has been passed down from one generation to the next, and we are now sharing those experiences with our family.

6.  Taking a girls getaway to Seaside, Florida with my lifelong bestie.  It's the most beautiful beach I've ever been to and we had such a fun and relaxing time!

5.  Learning how to snowboard and visiting Colorado.  This has created many fun memories for me and my now-husband, and Colorado is my happy place.  I'm looking forward to many more vacations there.

4.  Being proposed to.  It was a very unexpected surprise, the night I returned home from #6!

3.  Running a marathon.  Something that was on my life bucket list but that I never thought I would do, it was a defining moment for me, and one I will never forget.

2.  Having my sweet baby boy, and embarking on all the new adventures of motherhood.

1.  Meeting and marrying my husband.  The internet can bring soul mates together people.  And without him, I wouldn't have #2.  :)

Certainly there were little things along the way that were happy and memorable, but these stick out to me the most. The majority of these things happened in the latter part of my 20s, which could mean it was just an overall better time, or I'm suffering from memory loss already.  But when I look back, these are definitely the things I will cherish the most!



I turn 30 this week.

I'm leaving a few blank lines, because that's exactly how I feel about it. I don't know how I feel about it.

At first, I kind of felt like this:

And then I was like, get it together Jessica!  30 is the new 20.  And I don't feel 30.  I mean, whatever 30 is supposed to feel like.

And for a brief second I thought maybe I could live it up for my birthday.  Old school....20 year old style.

But then I realized...

Because I have an infant, and I'm tired.  So tired.  And when I have a free minute I usually just want to lay in bed and watch modern family.

But I don't want to fall into a rut.  I mean, just because I'm a mom now....and turning 30....doesn't mean I can't live it up once in awhile.

And then, after two days of periodically working on this post, I realized this could get really long, because I was having more fun looking at gifs than I was caring about turning 30.  So, maybe it's not that big of a deal after all.

The truth is, many birthdays ago, 30 seemed really far off.  A kind of distant place I couldn't wrap my brain around.  So now that it's upon me, it's a little surreal.  The twenties are crazy.  So much happens in a relatively short span of time, and although I still feel like a 20 year old....albeit more financially sound and slightly more emotionally stable 20 year old....if I sat down and compared my 20 year old self to my 30 year old self, well, they would be different people in many ways.    But in good ways, at least that's how I see it.

So, in honor of my birthday, this week I'll be doing a mini-series on celebrating 30.  It's going to be tons of fun.  Well, at least in my mind.  Jennifer Lawrence is pumped about it, so what else can I ask for.


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